This is the last post in this series.
I've been writing about finding your passions and your talents. But I've realized that I'm missing a critically important piece of the puzzle that I've come to believe is necessary for you to make the changes you want and need. That piece is finding your tribe, your community of like-minded people who "get" what you're trying to do with your life and are along for the journey.
One of the most powerful of human needs is the need to belong. We feel we belong when we're accepted and appreciated for who we are. When others see and understand who we are deep down. When we feel like we're flowing with the tide of the people around us, rather than against it. Even for the more introverted among us (and I count myself in that number), there's still a strong need to be a part of a group that can feed the deepest parts of ourselves.
I've worked with both individuals and groups who are going through career changes and I will tell you that it's always better with a group. As an individual, yes you need time for thinking and reflection and not everything should be done as a group exercise, but I've found that more people have gained more insight through the process of interacting with others than they have by going it alone. It's why I prefer to do career counseling with a group if at all possible. Everyone wins.
The other thing I've found is that you often cannot rely on the "usual suspects" to help you in this process. Thinking in a profound way about what you want to do with your work life is akin to getting a divorce or finding out you have a serious illness. You begin re-thinking the very foundations of who you are and the only other people who "get that" are people who are going through it themselves. And many times, the people you usually count on have their own issues and fears about the changes your considering. Your partner may worry about what this will do to your financial situation. Your mother may want to keep bragging to her friends about "her daughter the doctor." Or your best friend from work may be worried that your friendship will end if you make a change.
So as critical to finding your passions, your talents and your purpose, I think, is finding a tribe who can support you in your journey. You can share your thoughts here--we're happy to be your tribe. Or you can seek out like-minded people where you live. Wherever you look, be sure that you find them. The path will be much easier if you're not on it alone.
Michele
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